By: Mustopha T wolly
The best achievement, so far in my live is cautioning my 'ANGER'.......JC ISHOLA OLAREWAJU SHEU
We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problemsproblems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger.
One of the successful students of in my dear varsity, while speaking publicly at a program I attended said something I would never forget. When asked what his greatest achievement was, he said " my greatest achievement in my life, so far is being able to caution my anger". Indeed, it is a food for thought.
Perhaps, the instinctive and natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
But on the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how we can respond. Of course, Anger is classically a way of passing psychic pain on to others. The two-step: You feel hurt, "poor me," "I hate you." It's a way of making others pay for your emotional deficits. It is wise to change that tendency. Whether or not anger fuels depression, it isn't good for the enjoyment of life.
The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. Like any emotion, its conveying a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, or unjust, or threatening. If your kneejerk reaction to anger is to explode, that message never got a chance to be conveyed. So, while its perfectly normal to feel angry when youve been mistreated or wronged, anger becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.
Besides, many think substituting emotion with anger. By this I mean that sometimes people make themselves angry so that they don't have to feel pain. People change their feelings of pain into anger because it feels better to be angry than it does to be in pain. This changing of pain into anger may be done consciously or unconsciously.
Let the world feel not of your anger, as it can destroy many things, not excluding your dignity and life. Accept the will of life as penned down by the creator.
Once you can accept that life sometimes is unfair, then you can pursue positive purpose. You can work constructively against injustice you find, transforming your anger into passion. Or you can pursue fulfillment in spite of the unfairness that exists
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